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Does life seem to be a struggle for you? Do you feel overwhelmed and frustrated much of the time? Do you wish you could experience something better? Fortunately, you can enjoy the exciting life you deserve. Success is available to you despite challenging circumstances. It's important to remember, also, that your self-worth is not defined by your circumstances. What holds you back? Take some time today to question the beliefs you hold that limit your potential. If you look at a challenging circumstance as a wall that's impossible to climb, you need a fresh perspective. Within you is everything you need to thrive and excel. The more you question the validity o f your limiting beliefs, the more success you'll experience in your life. Think of a circumstance in your life that you believe is preventing you from something you want. Write it down, then get ready to challenge that limiting belief. If you do, you'll begin to move toward the success you deserve. Use these strategies to maintain a positive self-worth, regardless of your circumstances: 1. Find the cause. What is the cause of the circumstance in your life? Sometimes, limiting beliefs can serve as warning signs that help you avoid danger. What can you learn from this so you avoid triggering a similar situation in the future? · If the cause of your situation is unclear, ask friends and family for their input. Others see your life from a different perspective, and their input can be valuable in determining the root of your difficulty. 2. Get past the blame game. You can often be your o wn worst critic. Fortunately, negative self-talk often has very little basis in reality. Choose to replace the doubts of your inner critic with more productive thinking. · Once a negative thought has taught you its intended lesson, it has served its purpose. If you choose to hold onto those negative thoughts, they will begin to form a negative self-image in your mind. This unbalanced view of your talents and strengths holds you back. · Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts about your circumstances, learn the lesson and resolve to move on. Find out what you can do differently to avoid a repeat of your present situation. Then, when negative thoughts enter your mind, choose to replace your self-talk with productive thoughts instead. 3. Cut yourself some slack. Recognize that you're human. Everyone makes mistakes, but your attitude determines your altitude in life. You are valuable regardless of your present predicament. You are worthwhile even when you slip up or falter. Your circumstances simply provide feedback and an opportunity to learn and grow. 4. Make the most of it. When you recognize that you're valuable despite your circumstances, you'll begin to make the most of every opportunity. Stumbling blocks you face can become stepping stones to the success you deserve, simply by changing what you focus on. · Instead of feeling helpless, ask yourself: "What's great about this?" Every situation provides something of value if you look for it. 5. Ask for help. Loved ones and friends often see strengths in you that go without notice. Ask them what they believe your strengths are. This is where your self-worth is found. Everyone has something of value to contribute. · Once you recognize your unique talents, gifts, and abilities, you'll see life in a whole new way. You'll seek opportunities to use your talents to bless others. You'll gain confidence that comes from conquering challenges that once made you cringe. · Instead of allowing your circumstances to dictate who you are, you'll make the rules! 6. Live one day at a time. Despite your best efforts, some days simply provide one frustration after another. When this happens, you have a choice. You can let your circumstances defeat you, or you can choose a more positive perspective. Resolve today to find your strengths, learn from your difficult circumstances, and experience the joy you were created to experience. Instead of tying your self-worth to your circumstances, choose to see things as they really are. You were created with unique talents and gifts. When you find those gifts within yourself and put them to use, you'll know how valuable you truly are.
Anxiety can take over your life without you really knowing it. It's important to stay in touch with your inner self to maintain balance and notice when there might be a problem. If your anxiety is severe or causes you to panic, be sure to see a health professional. However, for day-to-day anxiety, there are natural ways you can reduce anxiety by yourself. Here are some herbs, tips, and techniques you can use to alleviate your anxiety: 1. Passionflower. Passionflower is a popular herb that has been known to help reduce anxiety. For many, passionflower is as effective as some prescription drugs. It also helps with insomnia since anxiety and insomnia often go hand in hand. 2. Self-Hypnosis. Hypnosis can be a great way to relax and get in touch with your subconscious. Self-hypnosis enables you to perform techniques on yourself instead of requiring someone else's assistance. 3. Proper Nutrition. Sometimes you may forget about the intense connection between how you feel and what you put into your body. Simply paying attention to getting a natural, well-balanced diet can help you reduce anxiety. • If eating right is difficult for you, be sure to take a multivitamin and avoid chemicals, processed foods, and caffeine when possible. 4. Time Management. A hectic schedule can cause anxiety. Perhaps it's time to drop some activities or manage your time in a more efficient fashion. Remember to schedule time for yourself to focus on activities that relax you. 5. St. John's Wort . St. John's Wort has been used as a supplement for centuries. It's a natural herb that can help with both depression and anxiety. It's best used for mild to moderate cases. 6. Acupuncture. Acupuncture is an ancient art that can reduce your anxiety by enabling you to feel calm and relaxed. It involves the use of thin needles that are used to relax your muscles. 7. Worry Time. If you feel that all you do is worry, it's time to pick a worry time. Choose a period of the day - maybe 5 to 6 PM - where you allow yourself to worry as much as you want. Worrying is simply not allowed or tolerated during the rest of the day. Every time you feel worries arise during other times of the day, tell yourself that the worries have to wait for your worry time. You'll soon find that you won't really worry all that much during your worry time! 8. Exercise. Studies have shown that regular exercise can reduce anxiety. Exercise produces serotonin (the "feel good" hormone), relieves stress, increases oxygen levels throughout the body, and relaxes your muscles. 9. Meditation. Pick a time each day when you can meditate. Find a quiet, relaxing place and focus on your breathing while you relax. Next, immerse yourself in visualizing that you are living the life you desire. Meditation can relax, inspire, and motivate you. 10. Valerian Root. This is another natural anxiety herb. It's an excellent choice if you also have trouble sleeping. Valerian root can be taken as a tea or a capsule and should be taken approximately two hours before you go to bed. Whether you choose a natural herb, activity, or life change to reduce your anxiety, you're making a good decision when you opt to go with a natural solution to your problem.
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